In a movie, there are always two types of characters; the leading lady and the best friend.
And depending on circumstances and situational values there is that day, it tends to differ in what you play.
one day, you can be the supporting friend, looking out for the leading lady in someone else’s day.. yet another day you can be playing the leading lady., the one who desires it all, the one with all the attention. The leading lady is the one who everyone focus’ on, the one who takes control. The dominate character.
But some days you just don’t know who to play, and that’s when times really do get hard. The confusion of wanting to be the leading lady, yet only ever merely playing the best friend.
The point I’m getting at is that, we as people are never going to know when the biggest day of our life will occur. We may think we know, and prep ourselves to be the leading lady as we feel this is our time to shine, yet they’re never as big as you make them out to be in our head.
It’s the regular days. The ones that start out to be ever so normal. Those days are the ones that end up being our biggest, without us even knowing. Its not until its happing. You don’t recognize your biggest day. Not until your right there in the middle of it, in the moment. The day you commit yourself to someone or something. Whether it’s the day you get your heart broken. The day you meet your soul mate. The day you realize that there’s not enough time… because you want to live forever. Those days are the biggest days. The prefect most serial ones, the ones you wish you could play over and over and never let go. Those are our biggest days.
But answer me this one question. What happens that in those normal days, which never seem to be big until your half way through? What happens, when that moment you realize it’s the day to be the leading lady, yet only playing the best friend, what then happens? What if we only have one big day, the day were meant to shine, yet we don’t? Do we just miss out, and we’ve missed our chance forever ?. Well my answer to that is, don’t let that chance miss you. Play the leading lady. everyone deserves to be the leading lady in their own life, everyday. So here is me telling you now. Take that chance, make that risk, be the central character of your own life. And don’t let others shine over you. Stop being the best friend. Be the leading lady.
Tuesday, 28 December 2010
Sunday, 28 November 2010
To everygirl out there, im here to inspire
This is purely because I’ve felt like this for a long time and it was needed to be said, i created an analogy to make things a little easier, i am going to compare us girls to handbags... enjoy.
have you ever broken up or been cheated on by someone, and watch them replace you?, what i want to tell you girls, is that we are like handbags, all of us, we, the originals, the ones who make the boy who they are, we are the Prada’s of all handbags, and the replacements are the Prado’s, you know the ones you can buy of the side of a street or market stand for £20.
you see the Prada handbag is the one they will take on the expensive dinner dates, the one he will show off to friends, family and important people, due to its fine stitching and beautiful detailing, knowing that where he uses it, people will respect the bag and won’t be tempted to steal it as he knows that bag is so precious!.
whereas the Prado bag is the one he will fling about, overload with heavy books, let it get ripped and not care where he takes it, as it could be potentially stolen, say if he got drunk and left it somewhere, someone could pick up that Prado and take it away, and the reason he doesn’t care because he knows that bag won’t cost as much as the original as its only the replicate, but due to the Prada being so expensive he could leave it in the cupboard, tucked away, neglecting it and will end up over using the tacky Prado, but one day that Prada all shiny and left in the cupboard sitting board, will get picked up and stolen, and looked after by a different owner, and that’s the moment, the day he realizes his expensive shiny original Prada is stolen by someone else, and all he is left with is the fake rip of Prado, so he will spend and spend more and more on fake replicates and that day he tries to get a Prada bag back,, he will realize he’s broke, and will never ever be able to buy back his thousand pound collection bag. His Prada is gone and will never get that bag.
Girls we will always be the Prada’s in his life and the Prado’s will live up to us.
have you ever broken up or been cheated on by someone, and watch them replace you?, what i want to tell you girls, is that we are like handbags, all of us, we, the originals, the ones who make the boy who they are, we are the Prada’s of all handbags, and the replacements are the Prado’s, you know the ones you can buy of the side of a street or market stand for £20.
you see the Prada handbag is the one they will take on the expensive dinner dates, the one he will show off to friends, family and important people, due to its fine stitching and beautiful detailing, knowing that where he uses it, people will respect the bag and won’t be tempted to steal it as he knows that bag is so precious!.
whereas the Prado bag is the one he will fling about, overload with heavy books, let it get ripped and not care where he takes it, as it could be potentially stolen, say if he got drunk and left it somewhere, someone could pick up that Prado and take it away, and the reason he doesn’t care because he knows that bag won’t cost as much as the original as its only the replicate, but due to the Prada being so expensive he could leave it in the cupboard, tucked away, neglecting it and will end up over using the tacky Prado, but one day that Prada all shiny and left in the cupboard sitting board, will get picked up and stolen, and looked after by a different owner, and that’s the moment, the day he realizes his expensive shiny original Prada is stolen by someone else, and all he is left with is the fake rip of Prado, so he will spend and spend more and more on fake replicates and that day he tries to get a Prada bag back,, he will realize he’s broke, and will never ever be able to buy back his thousand pound collection bag. His Prada is gone and will never get that bag.
Girls we will always be the Prada’s in his life and the Prado’s will live up to us.
Friday, 2 July 2010
Stuck in old ways..
My girls i'll always love them wherever our future take us :)
So from Monday to Friday I’ve been in inductions for sixth forms, Monday to Wednesday I attended Leventhorpe, and Thursday to Friday I was at St marks, the overall experience of both were good, i loved Leventhorpe and seriously considering going there, and St marks induction was okay also.
The thing that struck me the most was the whole idea of "new people", meaning if I did end up going to Leventhorpe, i would have to start from scratch, new friends, new surroundings, and new lifestyle. Kind of scary right?
I think I’ve got so set into 5 years of new ways, with the same people, the same school and same teachers that St marks has become some sort of a security blanket to me, and I think if I stay there for another 2 years, maybe I’ll get to attached and it will be even harder for me to move on to a place such as university.
During the inductions, we did "team building" a way to break the ice between strangers by getting them to do tasks in which we communicate with one another, but I felt that by drawing pictures together wasn’t the best way to become friends with someone you just met, as we would put on a fake smile pretend to like each other for the 15 minute task, and then when the task finished we would run to our old friends and clasp to them like a security blanket.
My personal outlook on it, is that I felt I became closer to a group of people who I hadn’t met before due to the fact we just sat at a table during lunch and shared some very personal and embarrassing stories, and after that I felt like I had actually accomplished some sort of ice break between people and all we did was sit with each other during lunch.
I feel we as students are stuck it concrete secure ways, that we have built barriers to keep friends we’ve known for a long time in, and now were older we have found it hard to accept others and let them melt that barrier, and if we ever want to fit in somewhere new, we need to go back to our child state of mind and become honest with people and let everyone in, and then we can pick and chose who we want to keep in the barrier, and who we don’t need so much anymore.
so bloggers if you really want to get to know someone in a day, don’t play with Lego to construct a friendship, just talk in depth with someone, and don’t be scared to be truthful, after all these are the people you could end up sharing the next two years with, might as well start on the first day right ? x
The thing that struck me the most was the whole idea of "new people", meaning if I did end up going to Leventhorpe, i would have to start from scratch, new friends, new surroundings, and new lifestyle. Kind of scary right?
I think I’ve got so set into 5 years of new ways, with the same people, the same school and same teachers that St marks has become some sort of a security blanket to me, and I think if I stay there for another 2 years, maybe I’ll get to attached and it will be even harder for me to move on to a place such as university.
During the inductions, we did "team building" a way to break the ice between strangers by getting them to do tasks in which we communicate with one another, but I felt that by drawing pictures together wasn’t the best way to become friends with someone you just met, as we would put on a fake smile pretend to like each other for the 15 minute task, and then when the task finished we would run to our old friends and clasp to them like a security blanket.
My personal outlook on it, is that I felt I became closer to a group of people who I hadn’t met before due to the fact we just sat at a table during lunch and shared some very personal and embarrassing stories, and after that I felt like I had actually accomplished some sort of ice break between people and all we did was sit with each other during lunch.
I feel we as students are stuck it concrete secure ways, that we have built barriers to keep friends we’ve known for a long time in, and now were older we have found it hard to accept others and let them melt that barrier, and if we ever want to fit in somewhere new, we need to go back to our child state of mind and become honest with people and let everyone in, and then we can pick and chose who we want to keep in the barrier, and who we don’t need so much anymore.
so bloggers if you really want to get to know someone in a day, don’t play with Lego to construct a friendship, just talk in depth with someone, and don’t be scared to be truthful, after all these are the people you could end up sharing the next two years with, might as well start on the first day right ? x
Sunday, 27 June 2010
Would it really improve ...
I read an article in a recent vogue magazine and when asked what Cameron Diaz would have to make her life better, she stated a child would improve it.
So I started thinking what was it, that would make my life better, but I found myself not knowing.
So tell be bloggers, what would make your life better?
Would it be a child like Cameron, or something completely different? a relationship?, more money?, more friends?, better friends?, eternal happiness? Or even a new life?.
But whatever it is, just stop, and think.
Is the key to making your life better, out of reach? A fantasy? A mere dream? as more of a want than a need.
Well whatever it is, maybe its right, or maybe you should reconsider?
So at this moment, when I’m asked "what would make my life better?" my answer would be... to make my life better, I would like to know what i need first, then get back to me :)
Inspire me one day xoxo
So I started thinking what was it, that would make my life better, but I found myself not knowing.
So tell be bloggers, what would make your life better?
Would it be a child like Cameron, or something completely different? a relationship?, more money?, more friends?, better friends?, eternal happiness? Or even a new life?.
But whatever it is, just stop, and think.
Is the key to making your life better, out of reach? A fantasy? A mere dream? as more of a want than a need.
Well whatever it is, maybe its right, or maybe you should reconsider?
So at this moment, when I’m asked "what would make my life better?" my answer would be... to make my life better, I would like to know what i need first, then get back to me :)
Inspire me one day xoxo
Wednesday, 23 June 2010
Advice from friends...
I’ve spoken a lot about my own views, and only given my own advice, so i thought it was time to share something that others have told me... it could come in use for you one day..
2 guys, one I’ve known for 5 years and the other one I’ve known for just over one year, both gave me two completely different pieces of advice, one being very inspirational and the other being very factual. Both pieces helped me in different ways.
"Always reach for the stars, because even if you fall, your guaranteed to land on the clouds"
"Look, Shit happens, and the best way to deal with it, is to flush!"
I’ve known both of these guys for a while, and they only told me these pieces of advice less than a month ago, and this got me wondering, where was this advice when i needed it most?
Are we as people, so wrapped up in thinking that our own advice is best? Maybe we should take some time out to actually listen to what others around us have to say? This could help us in the long run, and avoid us saying “So you tell me this now!"
So here’s a thought for you all, if we had the chance to do our lives over, and consider listening to others from the beginning, how different would our lives be, and even so, would we be different people?
2 guys, one I’ve known for 5 years and the other one I’ve known for just over one year, both gave me two completely different pieces of advice, one being very inspirational and the other being very factual. Both pieces helped me in different ways.
"Always reach for the stars, because even if you fall, your guaranteed to land on the clouds"
"Look, Shit happens, and the best way to deal with it, is to flush!"
I’ve known both of these guys for a while, and they only told me these pieces of advice less than a month ago, and this got me wondering, where was this advice when i needed it most?
Are we as people, so wrapped up in thinking that our own advice is best? Maybe we should take some time out to actually listen to what others around us have to say? This could help us in the long run, and avoid us saying “So you tell me this now!"
So here’s a thought for you all, if we had the chance to do our lives over, and consider listening to others from the beginning, how different would our lives be, and even so, would we be different people?
Tuesday, 22 June 2010
Leaving and growing up
Today we got our leavers jumpers, and it got me to realise wow were going into the world and expecatiations are now high, and i was always told that we will Save the world, conquer the universe and live happily ever after, simple right? That’s what we want to believe, correct?, like we were 5 again, when we get told, don’t talk to strangers, always tell the truth, and one day you will meet prince charming and live a wonderful life, but no one warned us about what “real” life is all about. No one would tell us stories about Santa one day and then the next day tell us we would probably get heartbroken, no one prepared us for the reality of life and how that. when we get to the age of 16 that we would forget the feeling of not being tired, or how when we are 16 we should immediately be sent into the world to start job hunting and how we are expected to become adults, growing up is the thing that frightens us all but the thing that scares me the most is the thought that if were this stressed, worried and had so much life experience already, than how will be in 10 years to come? Is our generation growing up way before our time?
Thursday, 17 June 2010
Beauty, Lies and Truth..
I’ve been having consultations for my braces, but when it was discovered I have a tooth impacted in my face (yes I know =/) it meant surgery was needed, and due to the surgeon specializing in Maxiofacial, it meant he was more bothered about what my face looked like than the teeth in my face haha ..
This made me realize, this surgeon was going to be reconstructing my whole jaw and face, he wanted to and I quote "give me Madonna’s jaw line", then it struck me, people out there would pay thousands to resemble a celebrity somehow, through surgery, and this surgeon wants to do this to me, for free.
so this then got me thinking today was the whole idea behind beauty, how much people would go to make them self "Beautiful" I mean yes everyone can be beautiful on the inside but I’m talking about beauty of the outside, and how I’ve always been told that Truth, is Beauty, but isn’t Beauty on skin, a lie? isn’t it just that, that covers up all our flaws and lies for us. So if truth is beauty, but beauty is a lie? Confused ?...doesn’t make sense, does it ?
This made me realize, this surgeon was going to be reconstructing my whole jaw and face, he wanted to and I quote "give me Madonna’s jaw line", then it struck me, people out there would pay thousands to resemble a celebrity somehow, through surgery, and this surgeon wants to do this to me, for free.
so this then got me thinking today was the whole idea behind beauty, how much people would go to make them self "Beautiful" I mean yes everyone can be beautiful on the inside but I’m talking about beauty of the outside, and how I’ve always been told that Truth, is Beauty, but isn’t Beauty on skin, a lie? isn’t it just that, that covers up all our flaws and lies for us. So if truth is beauty, but beauty is a lie? Confused ?...doesn’t make sense, does it ?
Wednesday, 16 June 2010
Dreams...
Just a little thought for you guys...
So we all have a dream, or well we dream, to work out whatever our dream will be one day, but the basic dream we all hope for is to be happy, to find that guy, or girl, finish school and become successful.. That’s normally the jist of the dream anyway. But when we get to that dream and start to live it, and realize it’s not what we hoped for… well we are human, and we all start to find a new dream and hope for something else, because when we realize are dream is more of a nightmare, we convince our self that the reality of life is far better than the dream, but the hero’s out there, the people who are the most willing to fight for something, hold onto that nightmare, and hope some way or another it will turn around into a peaceful dream again, whereas the rest of us, who aren’t as strong willed, we turn to a fresh dream that we have never considered before. We awake to find ourselves against all odds, feeling hopeful. And if we’re lucky, we realize, in the face of everything, in the face of life, the true dream, is being able to dream, at all.
So we all have a dream, or well we dream, to work out whatever our dream will be one day, but the basic dream we all hope for is to be happy, to find that guy, or girl, finish school and become successful.. That’s normally the jist of the dream anyway. But when we get to that dream and start to live it, and realize it’s not what we hoped for… well we are human, and we all start to find a new dream and hope for something else, because when we realize are dream is more of a nightmare, we convince our self that the reality of life is far better than the dream, but the hero’s out there, the people who are the most willing to fight for something, hold onto that nightmare, and hope some way or another it will turn around into a peaceful dream again, whereas the rest of us, who aren’t as strong willed, we turn to a fresh dream that we have never considered before. We awake to find ourselves against all odds, feeling hopeful. And if we’re lucky, we realize, in the face of everything, in the face of life, the true dream, is being able to dream, at all.
Habits
Without habits we wouldn't get nicknamed, we wouldnt get sterotyped, we wouldnt get shouted at, but we wouldnt be us. For instance i have a friend who drums his fingers on the table when he's in a music mood, its a habit that can get extremely annoying considering most of the time he has the lyrics of a beetles song running through his head, but without that little habbiy, that tiny bit that adds to him as a person, he wouldn't be the whole person we know of him today.
Then theres the little habbits that not alot of people pick up, as were so used to it, like when people bite their nails, possiably the biggest habit of most people, and as were so used to that as a general habit we just look past it, as we think these type of things are expected. but sometime the expected makes someone or somthing boring, we know people so well, and wait around for them to do somthing, we would expect, but if we really look at it, the person as a whole, the expectation we have, makes life a tad boring down you think?. Sometimes and well most of the time, the expected simply pales in comparison to the unexpected. you have to wonder why we cling to out expectations. Because the expected is just what keeps us steady....stable... standing still. The expected is just the beginning. The unexpected ... is what changes our lives.
Inspire me one day xoxo
Then theres the little habbits that not alot of people pick up, as were so used to it, like when people bite their nails, possiably the biggest habit of most people, and as were so used to that as a general habit we just look past it, as we think these type of things are expected. but sometime the expected makes someone or somthing boring, we know people so well, and wait around for them to do somthing, we would expect, but if we really look at it, the person as a whole, the expectation we have, makes life a tad boring down you think?. Sometimes and well most of the time, the expected simply pales in comparison to the unexpected. you have to wonder why we cling to out expectations. Because the expected is just what keeps us steady....stable... standing still. The expected is just the beginning. The unexpected ... is what changes our lives.
Inspire me one day xoxo
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